{"id":1654,"date":"2023-11-27T06:34:54","date_gmt":"2023-11-27T06:34:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thebinayah.com\/?p=1654"},"modified":"2024-08-02T04:03:34","modified_gmt":"2024-08-02T04:03:34","slug":"how-to-actually-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thebinayah.com\/index.php\/2023\/11\/27\/how-to-actually-change\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Actually Change"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1654\" class=\"elementor elementor-1654\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-375b493 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"375b493\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-57de840\" data-id=\"57de840\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0f79586 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"0f79586\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.22.0 - 26-06-2024 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span><p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height:1.38;margin-top:0pt;margin-bottom:0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 19pt; font-family: georgia, sans-serif; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline;\">How to Actually Change<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 1.875rem; font-style: inherit; background-color: var(--ast-global-color-4);\"><\/span><\/p><\/span><\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4f40c92 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4f40c92\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-8ad605d\" data-id=\"8ad605d\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c73b342 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c73b342\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.22.0 - 26-06-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Why is that, a lot of the time, we want to get ourselves out of certain habits or situations, we know exactly how we can do it, we know the exact steps to take, but we don\u2019t do it? We get stuck in this loop of retaining information about what to do, why it\u2019ll be so good for us, feeling really motivated for a few days, then suddenly getting unmotivated and not taking any action at all?<\/span><\/p>\n<b id=\"docs-internal-guid-0749eea0-7fff-a317-3c96-236286bda863\" style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Being stuck in this loop is quite frustrating because you know, deep down, that you\u2019re playing yourself. You know you\u2019re letting your laziness and procrastination take over you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">I\u2019ve actually come to this realization about myself recently which is why I began writing this. There are a few things that I\u2019ve learned to help me start to get out of this loop that I thought would be worth sharing with you all.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 15pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: bold; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Dopamine Fix<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Be mindful of the other things that you\u2019re engaging your mind in. One big thing for me was social media. For a while, I had actually deleted all of my social media permanently; I went a good few years without it and genuinely had no desire to get it back.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Suddenly, I had the idea of starting a public page about my studies and just overall lifestyle things to potentially benefit others. I began posting on there and without even realizing it, I found myself back in the loop.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">You would think that because I had the page with the goal of actually benefiting other people and building a community on there that that\u2019s what I would use it for. But that wasn\u2019t the case. I started to consume more than I was producing. I kept looking at other pages like mine, seeing what they\u2019re doing, and comparing myself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">I wasn\u2019t actively posting anymore. I had completely forgotten about my goal of building that Instagram page because of how flooded my mind was with everything else. Because of the excessive dopamine, the constant stimulation, the drive to produce content myself had completely disappeared. I was aware of this and felt disappointed in myself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">What I learned from this is to keep your mind at a normal level of stimulation. Because my mind was so occupied, it had completely forgotten about the other goals and plans I had set. Or maybe I didn\u2019t actually forget, but the act of consuming content from others felt easier for my brain than making content myself, so I tuned it out with this artificial dopamine.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">It is not normal for your mind to consume hundreds of completely different videos\/information in less than 30 minutes. This overstimulation of your brain is what numbs the pain of taking action yourself. It makes you not <\/span><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: italic; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">work<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\"> for real, natural dopamine. It just gives it to you, without doing any work at all. That is where laziness begins.<\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 15pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: bold; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Control Laziness<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">You have to remember that you have control over your laziness, your laziness does not have control over you. If you constantly give the excuse of &#8220;I just feel too lazy, I don\u2019t feel like doing it right now\u201d you are NEVER gonna do it. It is your responsibility to take that power that you have over what you do and just do it.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 15pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: bold; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">See Yourself as Someone Who Can Do It<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Whenever we set new goals or plan on building a new habit, without realizing it, we see a barrier between what we want to be and who we are now.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Let&#8217;s say for example, I want to start waking up at five in the morning every day. I set this in my mind, set my alarm, then when the alarm rings at 5 am, I turn it off and tell myself, \u201cThis is not for me, I\u2019m not built for this.\u201d Then I proceed to go back to sleep.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">The problem here is that I immediately disassociated myself from that action by saying that to myself. I made myself think that I can&#8217;t do this, that waking up at 5 am is impossible for me to do instead of just getting up and believing that this is who I am now.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">I could\u2019ve said, \u201cThis is really hard to do, but this is who I wanna be.\u201d Then I\u2019ll actually get up.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Don\u2019t say, \u201cOkay I\u2019ll start trying to wake up at 5 am.\u201d Say, \u201cI will wake up at 5 am. This is a habit that is a part of me now.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">It seems like such a minor difference but I am telling you, from experience, that it makes the biggest difference. As long as you feel that feeling of \u201coh I\u2019m just not there yet\u201d or \u201cI\u2019ll start doing\u2026 when\u2026\u201d you\u2019ll never see yourself as someone who can actually do it so you\u2019re never gonna do it. You\u2019re making a break between who you are now and then who you want to become, making that \u201cfuture self\u201d never actually reachable.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 15pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: bold; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Remind Yourself of Your End Goal<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Personally, I don\u2019t believe that someone should work hard for something <\/span><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: italic; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">just<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\"> for the end goal in mind. I do think that you should learn to enjoy the process, create a system, and be able to just dive in without constantly worrying about the end goal.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">But despite this, when you completely just forget about why you\u2019re working so hard, you either end up losing your mind or you don\u2019t care enough to do it anymore. In the beginning of when you first started working on something new, it is likely that you had a lot of excitement, you were just up and ready to go. But later as time went on, you realize that doing the actual, <\/span><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: italic; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">real<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\"> work is not as exciting. So you become unmotivated.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Like if someone were to say, \u201cI will start reciting 20 pages of the Qur\u2019an everyday.\u201d They feel excited to begin this and start reading 20 pages every day. A few days pass and then they say, \u201cActually, I\u2019m gonna skip today. I\u2019ll just do it tomorrow.\u201d Then they continue this for the next couple days\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">The person here has forgotten about why they started. They have forgotten their intention of pleasing Allah \u0633\u0628\u062d\u0627\u0646\u0647 \u0648\u062a\u0639\u0627\u0644\u064a. Once they remind themselves of the pleasure of their Creator, the reward they\u2019ll receive, the mental clarity they\u2019ll receive, they will want to start again.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Take yourself back to when you first started, all the things you imagined, and remind yourself of why it\u2019s worth working so hard for. Then you will surely get back to it.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 15pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: bold; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Don\u2019t Expect Yourself to be a Machine<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">There might be a person in your life or maybe someone you see online that works endlessly. They have such a high drive to work and it seems like it never ends. People like this should be an inspiration to you. Make them the people that you look up to and aspire to be like.<\/span><\/p>\n<b style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\u00a0<\/b>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">But, you have to remember that you\u2019re likely to not do everything perfectly and consistently all the time. Even the most consistent and work-driven people trip up and have off days. What makes these people special is that they just don\u2019t stop trying, they keep going no matter what. Just because you missed one day of doing something doesn\u2019t mean that you should let it get you down. Just get back up the next day and keep going.<\/span><\/p>\n&nbsp;\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 12pt; font-family: cambo,sans-serif; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;\">Whatever happens, don\u2019t think about what happened yesterday, think about what you can do today. Dwelling about the time you\u2019ve already wasted is literally only wasting more time. As one of my teachers always reminds me, \u201c\u0644\u0643\u0644 \u062c\u0648\u0627\u062f \u0643\u0628\u0648\u0629\u201d. For every fast running horse, there is a trip.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How to Actually Change Why is that, a lot of the time, we want to get ourselves out of certain habits or situations, we know exactly how we can do it, we know the exact steps to take, but we don\u2019t do it? 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